Lost Family

Well, my husband finally got a job. A real job is what I should say. In addition to his part-time job at a well known electronics chain, he got a job at a nursing home (he's a licensed state tested nursing assistant). The new job pays well too.

This couldn't have come at a better time, because our vehicle has decided to go to hell. We just replaced the radiator, and now have to replace the water pump and heating coil, and possibly the head gasket. Lovely. And let me tell you, being in Ohio with no heat is absolutely WONDERFUL. I love walking through 5 inches of snow and then being cold in the car too. Not.

Also, I got hurt at work last week Friday. I work for an internationally known home improvement chain. I was lifting a bucket of Ice Melt (a non-corrosive chemical that melts ice and snow in the winter) which weighs 50 pounds (22.6796185 kg) for a customer. My pant leg got stuck on a nail that was on the pallet and when I shifted my weight, I lost my balance and fell, and the bucket fell on my leg. Ouch. It's not broken or sprained, but it's nastily bruised and swollen. Worker's Compensation is paying my medical bills (so far) and paying me for the two days I had to call off. For now they have me on seated duty, and we will see what happens next week.

My birthday is tomorrow (22/November/2008) and it's turning out to be awful so far. If my injury and car problems weren't enough, more was added to my plate. This is where my title of the entry comes in.

Today my father-in-law came to pick me up to take me to work (my husband was at work with the car) and had his sister in the car with him. No big deal. Until they ambushed me. I was basically called a liar for God knows what, told that I'm a horrible person, and also told that his father "doesn't give a fuck" about me or my husband, nor does he care if we lose our jobs over him harassing us AT our jobs. Nice, right? Then, after I had no reaction, they tried to say that my husband was all these horrible things that they had just called me, trying to throw him under the bus, so to speak, to see if I would turn on him. Even nicer. So I spent the first hour of my day at work in the bathroom crying my eyes out. After they left, they went to my husband's work, and harassed him. He almost got fired today because of that. Not that they cared. My husband was told that we are disowned and they want nothing to do with us or our child.

It's now clear what has been going on in our family. A month or so ago his father made this big deal of telling me who were his favorite daughter-in-laws. First was his stepson's wife, Jennifer. Then myself and his other stepson's wife Amber (we are good friends, "coincidentally"). Then the third stepson's wife, Betty. All he talks about is Ryan and Jennifer this and that. Ryan isn't even his son, and he's made it a point, as has Ryan. Yet he is treated better than we are. Rickey and Amber are treated better than us too, but not by much, and they know how wrong they do us. Betty and Randy were disowned a long time ago.

So this is most of what's been going on here...sorry for the late update, but work and doctors have kept me busy. I will update ASAP, but I have to get going. I am using my dad's computer and our car is getting buried in snow as we speak. So we need to get home while we still can.

Love, and other indoor sports....

JJ

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First Ever Post

It's my first ever post, and where to begin? Now, to the confessional.



My husband is lazy. He barely works. We are on the verge of losing our home. I will not have a birthday party, or a decent holiday, seeing as that we have no money, we have to pay our rent, and bills, and we have yet to pay his cousin back for loaning us rent money. I hate myself for putting up with it. Now, I know the easy solution is to leave, but that won't change much. I'll still be broke, and then in addition, I'd be alone. I love my husband more than anything, but I'm terrified of what will happen if things don't change soon. He hasn't had a job in over a month. I work part time, but usually work 32-40 hours a week. I pay for our healthcare and dental. I've been paying our rent, and cable/phone/internet. We haven't paid our gas or electric in 5 months. They are going to get shut off here soon. I can't ask his family for help, because I've aided his charade, and they are under the impression that he's been working this whole time. I can't ask mine for help, because they think the same. Our friends are in the same boat. I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I feel like Jenny from Forest Gump...

"Dear God, please make me a bird so I can fly far far away..."